yesterday, one of the headlines on the front page hit me. And it hit me really
hard, on my face. The headline was about the statistics of increasing crime
against women in our country and the appalling fact that the state I dwell in
for my livelihood today, Maharashtra, tops the chart in this dubious
just closed the newspaper and sat down to think. I was wondering what is
happening to the men in this country? I realized that it is the society, our
upbringing that creates this mentality in men. We live in a society where it is
absolutely normal for men to have sexual fantasies about women. In some
classes, it is even considered healthy. Ridiculous, it may sound, but this is
the honest truth. And when this happens, such fantasies do turn violent.
the mothers who would also need to do a lot of things. In our society, it is
quite sad that mothers generally insist on teaching morality to their
daughters, try to keep them “grounded” but they pay no heed to how they should
be bringing-up their sons. This is the area which they need to completely
overhaul. I have seen mothers objecting to their daughters going out lest
someone thinks of them as loose characters. When the mothers think this way, it
is quite natural that their sons would also have the same thinking.
that the women in our country are not assertive enough. I understand that this
assertiveness comes from the society’s approval of one’s freedom and it is the
society which needs to take the blame for this. Why can’t we stop loading our
daughters with the massive burden of honour. By doing so, we are already
crippling them. The moment any such thing happens to a girl in our society, we
are so fast to outcast them that this fear is instilled in them since
in-sensitiveness of the police force to this horrendous act. I have seen the
entire police station fling into action to nab a pick-pocket but when it comes
to even recording a complaint against a sexual abuse, they are reluctant. In
most of the cases, they try to admonish and try to blame the victim herself. It
is because the insensitive mindset of the policemen is in their very culture.
They also come from the same sexually dysfunctional and repressed families in
our society. This can change only if cops are recruited considering their
cultural upbringing in mind.
our country should not just be restricted to schools. In fact, it is the adult
men who need to be taught more than the kids. Perhaps what is needed is a
sensitization exercise that could teach them to manage their libidos in a
happen, I, as a man, can just hang my head in shame whenever I look at a woman.
I may perhaps need to continue to hang my head in shame, till such time, such
perverts learn to keep their testosterone level in control so that they are
able to keep it in their pants.
story created and shared to me by a great friend. I want this story here as a
teaching to all men.
and she had to go home alone. She started walking towards the auto stand.
But it was too late; she had to wait for an auto.
her, she turned back and ‘Bhoo’ he said. She got scared and he laughed out loud.
Her office colleague it was. “I’m here because I can’t let
you walk alone towards the auto stand and don’t worry I’ll be
with you till you get an auto. You are my responsibility”
an auto came but no passenger was in there. She knew that this
could probably be the last auto to pass by. She looked in an
uncomfortable manner at the auto driver. “Don’t worry sister; I’ll drop you at
your home safely. You are my responsibility” the auto
driver said. She sat in. Her home was in a dark lane; she had to
walk almost five minutes in the lane to reach her home.
mid-aged man was smoking and looking at her. It was a neighbour.
He threw the cigarette away and said “Come I’ll walk with
you till you reach home. Don’t worry beti, you are like my
daughter only. You are my responsibility” The girl finally
reached home safely.
story, you must have felt that something wrong will happen.
This fear is what our society has given us. It will no longer
have an existence if every man can be like that office colleague or the auto
driver or the neighbour.
mother, daughter and wife are your responsibilities, ‘She’ is your responsibility
too. Understand if you can.
shut up their illogical reasoning first.